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 If you look back upon your life... was there someone you admired greatly? Perhaps this was someone who was successful in their career or their family life? At different stages of our lives, we will encounter different people who have managed to be very successful at what they do. They have a wealth of experience and information which we can use to reflect upon and improve our outlook and aims in life. Usually, our first mentors are our parents, or another close family member. As parents, our first instincts may be to protect and nurture our children, which includes imbuing them with discipline and responsibility. However, there is so much we can do to serve as effective mentors to our children.
Spur your child on to greater heights
Support and encourage your child to reach for higher goals and to take the next step. If your child is aiming for 3 shots through the hoop, why not five? IF they are aiming for a B, why not A? When discussing situational issues, due to the age and generation gap, it may be difficult for your child to relate to your own experience when you were one yourself. However, you can point out good role models among your children's peers, discuss a scenario that was played out during a documentary or drama, and so on.
Help your child stay accountable to his or her goals
This is not the same as making your child 'toe the line'. There is a fine line between motivator and taskmaster and as a parent,it is often easier to assume the role of the second one. Let the drive to succeed and be accountable come from within your child. Help your child pay attention and stay on track. When your child gets frustrated and wants to give up, help to push them harder by telling them they 'can do it', rather than they had 'better do it' - it can make quite a difference.
Be part of your child's 'Arsenal'
In helping to provide knowledge, motivation, advice and counsel, and encouragement when they need it most, you can be of invaluable support to your child. Keep an open and honest relationship with your child, and encourage him or her to share thoughts, concerns and ideas even if they may delve into areas not familiar to you.
Would you consider yourself a 'mentor' to your children? Do you have mentoring tips to share with other parents? We would love to hear from you.
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